We attended the NVR coaching (2024/25), it was an unknown of what to expect, we shared the training online with 6 other families. To start with we wondered what it could do for us, having a physical and verbal abuse child. PartnershipsProjects delivered the training, over a 10 week course, 2 hours per week, the project team were informal, friendly, honest and non judgemental throughout the course.
What did we learn? That we were not alone, it’s not just about the child but the whole family, we as parents were finally considered to be just as important! We did role play, which isn’t something we looked forward to but actually it was really helpful, it helped self-reflection, and was good to practice techniques in a very safe place. Sarah in particularly was very constructive and gave feedback on our style of how we communicated to our children, including body language.
I would recommend this training for a number of reasons:
1) we met others going through a horrible experience and could see it wasn’t just us!
2) we saw the empowerment it gave to other members of our group to say no to a child
3) we set up a WhatsApp group (amongst parents only) where we could talk to one another when having a bad or good day to support each other, a little humour goes a long ways when dealing with our daily lives
4) it showed us techniques about what’s important and when to have a fight or not ( baskets)
5) most importantly, I saw a change in us, and others on the course, it focuses on self care, changing in priorities of what is really important, knowing know when to challenge yourself in what really matters for a happier home!
I must say, it was really important both partners participate as you discuss this off line and it would be hard to do this with only one, and our group showed the benefit of where there was both partners against just the one, as we felt this was a more supportive approach and led to better outcomes.
